11 Jun 2015

To share or not to share…

A conversation has stirred up lately about the content of our online identity via social media. When you apply for a job, for instance, its important to know where you stand online. You need to know how your Facebook and Instagram posts, among other social media platforms, paint a picture of you in a digital space. This picture can determine how the rest of the world sees you as well. The good news is that as an adult, or at least a person that is physically capable of uploading a photo, discretion is at hand.

The same can not be said for our children. As cute as they can be, they usually have no say as to how they are portrayed online. I am conflicted by this. I love my son and I want the world to know just how adorable he is. He is approaching his third month now and I can’t seem to post enough photos. At the same time, I do my best to constrain myself so as to prevent being another new parent that floods your Facebook feed. I never wanted to be one of these parents, but oh well.

The conversation was spearheaded by my Mother-in-law who was very clear on her stance. “Never put up photos on Facebook!” I didn’t see the immediate problem since I have been on Facebook for a decade now and most of the people I’ve met in that time are also on the site. That is however, until I became a Christian and purged all of the “inappropiate” photos and posts that didn’t align with my new life. The point I am trying to make is that I was able to easily go into my account and delete whatever it was I saw unfit. I have the option to do so. My son, or any other child does not. I’d hate for my son to not get accepted into a prestigious high school because images of him naked with cake frosting on his face didn’t align with their mission statement. It’s still cute, though.

I simply want to know if we are robbing our kids of the clean slate we had before the Internet became what it is now and represented you to potential employers, schools, etc.

Veronica and I like to consider ourselves to be tech savvy, each with our own string of social media accounts. We love how it connects people with similar interests and goals. And yes, on occasion, we’ll share our meals, locations, and events we may be celebrating at the moment – all typical social media posts.

Now that we have a baby in the house and the prospect of sharing him with the world has be considering any possible repercussions. I read an article on HuffPost Parents that put it in really simple terms as to why there are parents that are refusing to post their child’s photo on the Internet. In the article, Not All Parents Post Photos of Their Babies on Facebook, the argument of digital repercussions is very clear. “Some parents have privacy and safety concerns” while others “worry about what companies might do with their child’s image and personal data”. And lastly, the point that I agree with the most, many parents “simply do it out of respect for their kids’ autonomy before they are old enough to make decision for themselves.”

These are all very valid points but ultimately we have to trust that the parent has the child’s best interest at heart. Like many of our readers, I’ve made many mistakes as a kid. Fortunately I was born in 1983 and the worst that could happen, if any mistake was caught on camera, for instance, would be it airing on America’s Funniest Home Videos.

Will I stop posting photos of my son and future children? Probably not. Will I be more conscience of what I post knowing that it will be on the Internet forever. Definitely yes.

  • DinaLineth

    This is great. I agree with finding the balance of sharing in social media. I don’t really share anything when it comes to my personal life beside my own baby and childhood pictures. When it comes to my kids (thinking ahead…lol), I won’t overshare, but I few pictures here and there won’t hurt. I will cross that bridge when I get there. :)